Shoot Me...

cause I'm a bad mommy.

I really am.


Lately Haziq has changed his sleeping routine. Before this, latest by 9 pm he would already be fast asleep and I can continue with my house chores.

But these last few days have been really challenging for me. Haziq refuses to sleep as usual but will only surrender himself close to midnite leaving me an unhappy 'zombie'.

It's fine that he wants to stay up late and play but the thing is he wants me to sit beside him and do nothing. This makes me a bit 'angry' with him because he has no idea the zillions things I have to do around that tiny place called home and I'm racing with the time. sigh. End result, you have a stressed mommy and a crying baby.

Still haven't shot me yet???

Here's more.

As much as I don't want to spoil Haziq, sometimes I bite my words. Hubby said I'm spoiling him by giving him whatever he wants. Hubby believes we should not all the time adhere to his request of playing things which are not playable for a toddler. You know how toddlers are. The things that we forbid them from playing are the things that they want.

So....Hubby's method is to ignore his crying and let him calm himself down but on the other hand I do not have the heart to see him cry. I cepat cair when Haziq give me that muka seposen look upon not getting what he wants. I also do not want to have extra work to do when Haziq starts to cough after crying and then vommit. That's why sometimes I give in and let him play with whatever he wants. Plus Hubby added that Haziq is extra 'mengada' when I'm around. MANJA!


Tell me...how do I handle a toddler refuses to sleep although it's obvious that he is extremely sleepy and who sometimes uses crying as a method to get his way.


A conversation with my Mom and another experienced Mommy this morning, they told me this :

1. Haziq wants my/our attention that is why he starts to cry whenever he's upset about something.
2. Mama said you have to put yourself in his position. He's been at his babysitter's place for more than 8 hours everyday and you expect him to sleep after 2-3 hours of time with you??? (darn...I'm stupid!). If he can talk he would say that he wants to spend time with you but for now he expresses his feelings through his cry for attention.
3. If he wants to play with something, let him as long as it's not dangerous for him. Child's brain develops while exploring things around him. He will learn faster.
4. Don't just give him toys to play with...give him lotsa love...he needs it...
5. The housechores can wait but the precious time that you're spending with him comes only once. When he's all grown up you will miss this time (sedih part ni ok). So, if he wants you to sit beside him...sit...if he wants you to cuddle him ...cuddle...if he wants to mess your tupperware cabinet....mess with him...huhuu....most important is to capture and cherish every second with him.
6. Relax....don't take it too hard on myself and enjoy the ride (yeah...I think I am pushing myself too much...)

I feel much better now. I just bought a book called Toddle Tactics. In it there's advice on communicating with your toddler, discipline and good manners,good eating habits, routines for play and sleep, toilet training and family dynamics. Wish me luck ok in my quest to become a better parent. :)

Relax ler Ibu... :p

Not Once But Twice...

terkantoi with moi boss surfing the net...uhuk. The thing is while waiting for my software to run and produce me with some good news I like to surf the net. I like to multi-task (kononnyer). Sometimes I'd do my internet banking while waiting. :)

This morning I just clicked the google reader and suddenly he appeared from behind "How's it going?" (FYI....he's Norwegian. Norwegians are very polite. I like). Terkejut saya. Benci betul. Time I am 110% into my work, he doesn't want to drop by, when I divert a bit there he is sneaking up behind me. Last two weeks was another incident. I was 'busy' uploading pictures from our recent trip (Hub's lappy crashed so tk leh nk wat kt umah) out of nowhere he was already standing beside me. Lam bilik dia ada CCTV ke ape? No, wait. Tak mungkin. Fortunate enough my Boss ni is also into Photography. So when he saw the 'manual' on my table. He asked me whether I own 'it' and asked if it's with me at the moment. So end up he took a chair sat beside me and was busy clicking away my ehem ehem DSLR (:p). He even showed pictures in his website from his recent cycling trip and shared some tips. Hehe... cool kan my boss. Lagipun, I kinda know that he cannot be angry with me sangat coz dia pun leh tahan gak 'multitasking' dia time2 tgh free wakakak...

Okla...nak citer tu jer. I have to jot this down so that one day when I am giving Haziq speech aka bebel on work...or about being nice to your boss or ape2 la yang related I can show him this entry.

Haziq...you can follow my footstep part multi-tasking tuh but not the kantoi with the boss part unless your boss is a Norwegian...kalau Melayu jangan nak oooiii jangan....

nak sambung wat keja (see....i told u i can multi task) hehe...kang ada plak yang diri behind me tibe2 hihiii

Award????

Hey...I got this award from SaDi. Thanks dear. And thanks for reading this humble (sometimes or most of the time mundane blog :p ).

Brilliant Weblog is a prize given to sites and blogs that are smart and brilliant both in their content and their design. The purpose of the prize is to promote as many blogs as possible in the blogsphere.

Here are the rules to follow :

1) Put the logo on your blog
2) Add a link to the person who awarded you
3) Nominate at least 7 other blogs
4) Add links to those blogs on yours
5) Leave a message for your nominees on their blogs.


My favorite 7 blogs are:

1. anis
2. dotty
3. rafiqah
4. nik
5. olyn
6. nana
7. mrs zyi

I wish I could give the award to more than 7 people tsk...tsk....as I do have a long list of my favorite blogs. :P

Enjoy the award peeps.

love,

zai

Zai's 'Hectic Life' In A Flash

Greetings peeps...


What have I been up to lately (not that many of you want to know hehe)???

• We (read:moi,hubby & Haziq) just got back from our Bali trip about 2 weeks back. I will post that in another entry I promise. Overall we had a blast with minor glitch and hiccups.
• Met up with the darques (han, nik and loady) @ Marmalade BV II last week I think to catch up with each other. Although most of the time I was busy keeping up with Haziq ha!
• Haziq received his 18 months jab last week. He did not cry a bit at all. I was quite surprised because I was anticipating a lil' bit of drama to come along after that but hey...what do ya know. He took it like a real man. Ibu is soooo proud of you. However, it was not all happy dovey (ada ke such word ek) when at 4pm Haziq's babysitter called and told me Haziq has a temperature, refused his food, milk and kept on complaining his arm 'akit'. Hubby and I rushed back to fetch him and took him to his Pead Dr Ong in Ampang. Doctor said it could either be the injection or the diarrhea that could cause the fever. Ooo the previous day Haziq had diarrhea. Not sure what caused it. Fortunate enough his temperature was not too high 37.7C. He has slight fever so Dr Ong inserted that bullet thingy into him ehem ehem to lower down his temperature. I stayed at home the next day just to keep an eye on him. He was ok and himself again the next day Thank God :)
• Had breakfast with Miss Olyn on Saturday at Marmalade @ BV II (again!). Conclusion from the session : Haziq needs to go on playdate and mingle around toddlers his age as frequent as possible. I noticed that sometimes Haziq doesn't know how to play together with other toddler. It's either he gets very passive and retreat from the group or he will look at me kinda like asking me what to do or he won't share his toys. Aaarrggghhh....need to help him improve his social skills la...ke am being too paranoid and over acting ha???how ler???
• Sunday afternoon headed to Ampang to attend my exhousemate's wedding. She got married to my exofficemate, ha...what do ya know. Ini ler dikatekan jodoh kan. Anyway...congrats to Hani and Azuwan. All the best to both of you. We excused ourselves early to go to our next social commitment...Aidan's 2nd Birthday party at Dot's place in Kota Damansara. Actually we were fortunate that Haziq slept throughout the wedding and only woke up half way to Kota Damansara. So takde ler drama2 yang tidak diingini. I changed from my baju kurung to a more casual outfit in the car hahaha....serious. It was nice to meet Dotty & co though did not had the chance to chat2 with her but Dot....the party was awesome. Love the party favors. Haziq loves the ball and the whistle (cume I yg kengkadang sakit telinga haha...tp nvm as long as he's happy I'm fine with it). We went back straight after that to rest. Dinner time Hubby felt like having hot soup campur. So off we went to the nearest shop at our house. Phheewww....there....snippets of my simple(mundane?) life.

No pictures la this entry. Nanti ler ye I post some. How was your week???

p/s : ada sesape nak g wat mani and pedi...tulun....ajak ler saya ek...