The Terrible Two

I'm back. I am forcing myself to write coz I figured searching my mojo will definitely take some time.

Haziq....yeah....my Haziq the center of my life now. Lately it's been extra challenging dealing with that lil' fella. He wants things his way or nothing at all. Reasoning with him sometimes work, sometimes sigh. Few weeks back I took him to GE Mall with the intention to get him a haircut. As soon as we reached there, we had to wait for our turn. By this time Haziq had already noticed the Kidz Sport & Gym next to Cheeky Monkey Cuts. He was pointing and telling me "Ibu...nak main". I said ok but after your haircut. Come his turn he just refused to get on the seat (which is small red car...very cute) and demanded for his milk. He started to cry and hugged my legs. The hairstylist asked me to take him for a walk first and then come back to which I agree. So....where else did we go if not to Kidz Sports & Gym. I did not bring his socks (ye la...not in the plan kan) so I had to buy for him and for me (huh!)....Just when I wanted to put on his socks...he just refused to cooperate. He insisted on playing without putting on his socks which is totally out of the question. (Oooo did I tell you this is just an outing of myself and Haziq????Hubby had to work). Oooo...I had a tough time making him wear his socks that after 10-15 minutes I lost it and I pinched his tigh. Twice. I regretted it after but at that point I was so angry that he was being difficult and there were so many people there....I just lost it then and there. He cried alright...he did but the place was so noisy I don't think anyone really heard him. (Thank God no one accused me of mendera my son eh) He finally agreed to put on his socks and in split second stopped crying and ran to the nearest slide. Phhheewwww....ok I'm still ashamed of myself for doing that to him but hey I'm only human so cut me some slack ok. This is one example when Haziq is being his age. The terrible two so they say. And I can tell you there are many more.

So how do I deal with this tantrum? I try my very best to avoid spanking him. I don't want him to grow up knowing that if you do something wrong you'll be spanked, that's your punishment. That was how I grew up. Mind you my parents are VERY garang. So when it comes to my kid, I want to raise him my way. I'm not saying the old spanking method is wrong or anything, it's just....well....I want a positive up-bringing for Haziq. I want to reason out to him his actions. But my so-called way is different from Hubster's way. His parents ARE garang too so he believes that you have to be garang with your kid so that they will respect you. See how difficult it is for me. I agree yes you have to make sure your kid respect you but you don't have to be garang. Stern...firm yes. No means no...yes means yes...wait for a while...means wait for a while. Hubster and I sometimes argue with each other on what's the best way to teach Haziq. In end we try our best to meet half way and agree on something. No point arguing any further as it won't get us anywhere, rite????After all we're still in a process of learning....

I read in Babycenter at Haziq's age he doesnt understand when you say hurry up (duhhh zai!!!)....so it's me who has to learn to be patient with him and let him do things his way...at his own pace. It's also the best way for him to learn and to develop. Babycenter also said to involve your toddler in doing the housechores. That's what my mom said too. So yeah...been doing that. Haziq gets his own broom when I sweep the floor, he hands me the hanger when I hang our clothes, he helps me push all our boxes into the room to clear the hall, and oooo he massaged his Ayah head when Hubster complained of headache...well only for few seconds that is hahaha...I bruised my knee few weeks back after playing futsal with officemates. I told Haziq "Tengok knee Ibu...sakit" along with a sad face. Haziq said "Sian Ibu sakit" Hahaha...At least I know he knows how to show sympathy to people eh.....

See....one second I'm complaining of Haziq and his tantrums...the next second I'm already smilling while typing this and remembering Haziq's cute antics. Hahaha....I think it's the hormones....ya know...that time of the month. Or maybe mothers are like this. Yeah...I think it's the latter kan kan...

This entry is deifnitely going nowhere. Ooo...did I mention? In the end Haziq never got his haircut. After almost 2 hours at Kidzsport & Gym, I realised I haven't drawn any money yet so I don't have enough to go back for his haircut. The only ATM machine in that mall is at LG. So we went down and end up having lunch at Delifrance :p. Haziq got himself a small car toy of Doc Hudson from Cars Movie. Heh....So much for wanting to be the supermom who can handle an active two year old all by herself. But I had fun going out with my lil' man despite his ehemmm...you know what. I like to think it as our private quality time together....a mother and her son. I think he did have fun too, he slept soundly in the car on our way back :)

This weekend I have to make sure Haziq gets his haircut. You wanna know why. Last weekend, I brought our car for its scheduled service (yup...just the two of us again ..Hubster went to Lumut), a young chinese customer said Haziq looked a bit like a girl....waaaaaaaa.........must be the hair ahaha poor baby...depsite the fact that Haziq was wearing a t-shirt and shorts and shoes....hahaha...Ooo so many things to get done this weekend.....so little time.....I need to stop now. I'm keeping some for my next entry which I have no idea when....

Ok la toodles peeps....

he took this himself with our Canon compact camera ;p

and this too..see those pouty sexy lips....yummeeehhhh wakaka

cheeewaahhh...cheewaaahhh...kemain lg pose tuhhh I swear I did not teach him...